Don't get them confused. Listening is not talking. So here's the deal. We talk, all day long. It's what we do, it's what we're supposed to do. We are supposed to express ourselves and communicate to others. Talking is what separates us from the lower species of life.
We are also SUPPOSED to listen. We are supposed to hear what others have to say. Communication requires listening, both at work and at home. I'm sure you agree.
The problem is we talk when we're supposed to listen. We either talk out loud (by interrupting or talking over) or silently, in our heads. Either way, we spend time arguing our points when we should be listening to what the other person has to say. NG. No good.
Learn how to listen. Learn how to actually HEAR what someone else has to say. Listen for true meaning and full understanding of what is said. Don't rush to form a conclusion or offer a response. And whatever you don't, don't rehearse your response while the other person is talking. DNG. Double no good.
More on this one later, as there's a lot to learn about good listening. For now, consider this fact: the number one factor that increases relationship satisfaction is being heard. Hmm. Makes you think, doesn't it?
Don't get them confused. Listening is not talking.
Have a great day, everyone! Julie.
By Julie Rankin
September 1, 2018